Why do we care?

I have been busy with life, real life that is. The life of a mom, wife and soon to be student again...that I have let my blogging get pushed back to the far..far back burner and well, I realized today that one of my big stress releavers is blogging and so, here I am. :) I have also been thinking about why do we let people, people we hardly know and who most definately hardly know us, why do we let their opinions of us matter so damn much?

I just see way too much of this these days...online and off line that its really starting to bother me. I will not lie, I have my own issues with this. I have let the opinions and words of those who don't truly know me hurt me or bring me down from time to time....but more and more lately I have been thinking of ways to just shut these people up; and honestly, there is only one sure fired way to do this: Let them go! Yup, let them go from your life. Come on, lets all face this...if we are letting people we hardly know and again, who hardly know us,  into our heads then what the hell are we letting those who do know us do to us?

I think that no matter what, no matter who it is, if they cannot be supportive then they just may need to be cut loose. Maybe not on a perminant basis, but definately for a time-out basis. We all have that certain someone in our lives, either a friend or a relative, that no matter what they always have to get a snide comment or jab in when talking to you, right? Have you ever called someone and have it go like this...
You: "I got the promotion today!"
Them: "That's great...but......"
You know what I mean, there is always that "But" at the end of the niceness. Has anyone ever told you, "I love you..but..."? If so..RUN! I don't care who that person is..honestly, if the word 'but' comes after those 3 lil words...then they truly don't know the true meaning of 'love' and you don't need their type of love in your life. (Now, before I get hate mail..please know this is all MY OPINION..thank you.)

I see so many young people today caring more about what a stranger thinks than what a true friend/loved one thinks about them. And, this is especially true with young women these days. For some reason more and more people are seeking acceptance and belonging from strangers rather than their own families and true friends...what the hell is that about? Well, that is for a whole different blog, so I won't get started on that right now. ;) BUT, there has to come a time in everyones life, or well, I hope there does, that we step back, take stock, and realize that we are not here to please or love anyone but first and foremost ourselves.

RuPaul says it best when he says, "If you can't love yourself how the hell you gonna love someone else?" 
Makes sense, huh?